Sunday, December 30, 2012

Happy New Year !!!


Wishing you a New Year
That brings luck and prosperity
Fills your home with joy and spirit
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year


and A Simple Advice For My Friends..
Do not wait for a New Year to come to change your life and perspectives.
Get up and be More proactive today,

Have A Happy New Year !!!

How to motivate employees


When employees feel motivated, they engage more with their work and can affect the entire team’s output. You have a vested interest in the quality of your team’s work, obviously, but you also have a responsibility to contribute towards their job satisfaction.
Of course, every individual will relate to different methods of motivation, but here are six ways of keeping your team’s spirits high:
1. Make them feel valued
Don’t underestimate the importance of recognising and praising hard work. If an employee feels they are making a difference and helping reach targets they feel a sense of purpose and valued by the organisation.
2. Manage well
Clear leadership and frequent communication will aid your team’s success and avoid any feelings of being left in the dark.
3. Encourage career progression
If an employee sees little room for advancement they may feel they have nothing to work towards. Create extra responsibilities for staff to expand their experience and put them in better stead for promotions. Provide training and development opportunities and as well as showing employees you’re confident in them your team will also benefit from the added expertise.
4. Create a good working environment
The office atmosphere can have a powerful impact on the way people work. Any conflict or negativity will almost certainly restrict workflow, so make sure you’re providing appropriate platforms for employee feedback.
5. Give them responsibility
An employee who only receives small, menial tasks is bound to get fed up with their role. Likewise if someone’s been overloaded with work they might struggle under the pressure. Try to delegate responsibilities that will add variety to an employee’s day.
6. Define their career paths
As well as developing your staff for progression opportunities, it’s important to show them where you think they’re headed and helping them get there. Regular appraisals and target-setting provide a good setting for this, and are also a good opportunity to review and praise your employees’ work.
Finding out how to motivate employees
Anonymous employee surveys are a good way of finding out the mood of your team. The results of the survey may highlight changes you need to make or bring to your attention any issues you weren’t already aware of.
You can also use appraisals as a way of finding out if any employees are feeling demotivated, but you might find they are less willing to say anything directly to you. However, it’s worth using the opportunity to ask what changes you could make that your staff think would improve productivity and morale.
From a candidate attraction point of view, a big benefit of taking the time to find out what motivates your staff is that it will help your reputation as an employer of choice. Job satisfaction is high on the list of priorities for many job seekers.


How To Be a Leader: What Is Emotional Intelligence (EQ)

Based on the research the emotional competence in all job in every field is twice as important for star performance than pure cognitive abilities.
Please listen how to develop your emotional intelligence in this video  

Friday, December 28, 2012

How to Motivate Yourself to Exercise During Winter


How to Motivate Yourself to Exercise During Winter

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The dark and chilly winter mornings de-motivate you from getting up for a run or a walk. But you can’t just stop working out because the weather’s turned. 
Ziauddin Khan, master trainer, Talwalkars Better Value Fitness, says “It is crucial to improvise your workout routine and make it fun and exciting during the winter so that you do not stray from your goal.”

Choose a winter sport
The best way to work out in this weather is to choose a sport which is popular during this time. There are so many games that you can play, the  popular ones being badminton and cricket. 

Seasonal gear is important
As the season changes, we all tend to alter our wardrobe. You must do the same for your workout as well. Having appropriate workout gear that looks good on you and keeps you warm is a must. Not only will it keep you safe from getting a cold but also inspire you to work out during this season. 

Go off to bed early 
If you hit the bed early, you will also get up early the next morning. Ensure that you get enough time to rest so that you are ready to exercise the following day.

Warm-up is crucial 
Althea Shah, fitness expert, Gold’s Gym says, “A proper warm-up is important before you start exercising. Cold temperatures can make your muscles tight and therefore they are more prone to injuries.”  Warming up your body prepares itself for exercise both physically as well as mentally. Warm-ups 
concentrate on the muscles and allow them to stretch. 

Remember your goal
During the winter, we often feel lazy to wake up and keep postponing our workout. Plan your workout in a way that it keeps you feeling motivated. Don’t opt for something that you will not be able to follow. Altering your workout routine during each season will not only keep you going but will also ensure that you stick to your every day workouts. 

Opt for indoor exercises
The best way to stay encouraged to workout during the winter is by choosing to workout indoors. Usually when it’s foggy in the morning, going for a walk seems out of the question. Thus compensate your hour-long walk with a 45-minute of free hand exercises or an hour extra at the gym. This way you won’t end up feeling guilty or wasted. 

Don’t give up 
If you’ve missed your work- out or diet for a day, don’t allow it all away and binge. Accept that you’ve missed your target and have to work harder to make up for the loss the following day.

Sunday, December 23, 2012

10 Things We Can Learn From Children

“You can learn many things from children. How much patience you have, for instance.”Franklin P. Jones

Happy and Carefree
How many of you are able to relive the innocence of childhood? Do you remember the days when you believed you could fly and all you cared about were your candies, Popsicles and tiny toys? Ironically, as we grew old, we lost the innocence and boundless energy we had as children. Life becomes so complicated and difficult that we forget how simple and beautiful it is.
Children give us so many valuable life lessons that can help us climb up the ladder to a successful and fulfilled life. We should never underestimate their significance in our daily lives. They teach us some of the most important life lessons that prove instrumental in making our lives easier and a lot more interesting.
Nothing is impossible

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When it comes to creativity, children are the best to learn from. They teach you how to involve yourself in imaginary play, get inspired by small little things, and explore limitless possibilities in almost everything. Have a look at some recent accomplishments of children:
An 11-Year-Old Swedish Boy Linus Hovmoller Zou, who doesn’t call himself a genius, solved one of the most complex Chemistry riddles which had been unsolved for 8 years. His father who happens to be a renowned chemistry professor made several attempts but finally turned up to him seeking his help.
A five year-old Australian Painting Prodigy Aelita Andre amazed the world by her sense of expression through her paintings, mixing of texture and color, and unique concept and techniques in her art.
A 16 year old Kolkata Boy (currently living in Germany) Shouryya Ray created History by solving 350-Year-Old Maths Puzzles Set by Sir Isaac Newton.
When you look at them, they look no different than any other children you come across. The examples above are some of hundreds of such examples that demonstrate that there is no such word as ‘IMPOSSIBLE’ in their dictionary and they never constrain their way of thinking about their potential. When you say ‘This is not possible’, they start seeking possibility in that. Sometimes, their thought might seem to be divergent to your too much analytical mind or you might find them to be observing several things with little reasoning to the truth but that’s how they find more routes to the solutions and invent fantastic things.
Observation

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Their observation is sometimes so microscopic that they perceive the things that go unseen by most of us as adults. They teach you to learn to visualize your thinking, give due consideration to small little things, explore the things you ignore or keep aside, and connect yourself with nature. You might find their emotional reactions to things to be primitive, which you can modify; however, you should never underestimate these pint-sized observers. They teach you that observation itself is a great invention that lies behind every big accomplishment.
Lessons instrumental to happiness
Diligence, spontaneity, simplicity, worry-free mind, agility, encouragement, limitless energy, pure joy, genuine laughter, and having fun — are some of precious life lessons I have learnt from my kids. Sometimes they remind me of some of the forgotten memories of my childhood. Their open space of clear and pure heart fascinates me; though the wonderful incorruptibility of childhood is not completely restorable but we can attempt.
Do not bottle up your emotions
Children never hide their ill or negative feelings for anybody; they fight, shout, cry but express their anger and within few moments they play and laugh with the same person with clean and light heart. On several occasions we adults smile with negative feelings concealed in our heart. As a result, we do not look what we really and never comprehend the intentions of the people around us.
Dream Big
Ask any child what he or she aspires to be and their answer will surely astonish you. They dream big and feel positive about it and this is the attitude all about. If we stick to it, it takes us wherever we want to go and whatever we want to do. Dreaming big is the first step to becoming big in life.
Curiosity

Curiosity
Curiosity is one the most invincible characteristics that represent their vigorous intelligence. Their endless questions might seem unnecessary to you but they are driven by curiosity, which is the secret of great and creative people. With curiosity they take deep venture into anything around and explore amazing things that we as adults and rational minds have never thought of. It is not our special talent or skill that makes us intelligent but our ardent curiosity and thirst for knowledge.
Don’t compromise on your joy
Children tell you to not compromise on the things you passionately feel about. Your sweet and consoling words might make them ready to compromise on some of things but if they feel strongly about something, then your several attempts will go in vain. They never compromise on their favorite things.
Embrace everybody

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We adults have a lot of consideration including gender, color, background, race and religion before accepting anyone in our social and friend circles. Adults’ insecurities and ignorance don’t let people embrace each other with open and honest heart. On the other hand, children don’t judge anything by its cover. By segregating people we oftentimes create barriers in our society, preventing each other from happiness and moving ahead in life.
Cry if it hurts
Cry if hurt! Children don’t take even a second to cry if they are hurt; they cry for sometime and get back to their activities with a lighter and freer heart. Shedding your tears will not hurt your dignity, lesson your manliness or kill your humanity; rather all your suppressed frustrations, anger and pain will be vanished through tear drops. Never be ashamed of your tears; be happy that your pain is washed away through it.
“Heaven knows we need never be ashamed of our tears, for they are rain upon the blinding dust of earth, overlying our hard hearts. I was better after I had cried, than before–more sorry, more aware of my own ingratitude, more gentle.” ― Charles Dickens, Great Expectations
Live a worry-free life

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Children don’t make their lives difficult by worrying about anything. Problems are bound to occur when we deal with our daily lives and worry too much about them. As a result, our life becomes a series of too many serious events where there are no peace and happiness, nothing left to smile about, and no time left to pursue creative things.
“If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.” ― Dalai Lama XIV
Mousumi Kumar Saha
Written by: Mousumi Kumar Saha

Saturday, December 22, 2012

Stefan Sagmeister: 7 rules for making more happiness

Id like to give out my personal experience as a example of happiness situation. And I would like to hear the advice from different people.

A few years back I used to be more or less poor, and I used to think that having big things and expensive stuff is what would make me happy. Little did I know, I was experiencing an amazing amount of happiness of what I had at that time, great friends, great experiences, great adventures, etc. now, i am well off then how I ised to be. i live in the financial district, I have a driver, can get what I want, but truthfully, I don't have the same amount of happiness that I had back then.

I am not saying that I'm sad, but im saying that I just realized that what made me happy back then is a better happiness then the happy I have now. This is the tricky part though, what I have done lately is try to reproduce that same happiness by setting expectations and planning exactly what and how to do something. But at the end of the day, its not the same. So what I do is not have expectations, not plan anything extensivelly, and just let thigs happen, and to live for the present.

 What do you happy people think.. Advice?
http://www.ted.com/talks/stefan_sagmeister_7_rules_for_making_more_happiness.html

How to motivate unambitious husband

Interesting discussion - "How to motivate unambitious husband"
Is it possible?
Do you really need to do so?
What are tips and tricks?

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/marriage-life-partnerships/362812-how-motivate-unambitious-husband

What do you think?

Friday, December 21, 2012

How To Overcome Laziness In 4 Steps

If your ears are not too lazy to listen and eyes to watch see this video :-)

7 Ways to Build Trust in a Relationship

7 Ways to Build Trust in a Relationship- Be predictable, Don't keep secrets, Dont be afraid to tell what you need, Say No and others.....

15 Relationship Lessons From 15 Years Of Marriage

Wednesday is my wedding anniversary – 15 years. I find that hard to grasp, largely because most days I feel about 12.
But also, it’s a long time, right? A long time to be in this intimate, intense situation with the same person.

So I thought I’d write about some of the things I’ve learned. And because it’s been 15 years, I’ve come up with 15 relationship lessons. Of course, I’m not saying these observations are true, whatever that means. I’m not saying they apply to everybody. But they’ve helped me navigate the relationship seas in all kinds of weather. And not just marriage, but friendship too.

Let me know what you think…

1. Talking is not always a good idea

I’m not sure if it’s because I’m a girl or because I’m analytical or because I love words, but I do like to articulate. I have a theory on pretty much every topic and I like nothing better than to pour some wine and discuss the crap out of everything.

But, shockingly, not everyone does. This revelation has come to me rather late in life, this idea that not everyone loves a good debrief.

And when you’re going through a tough time, talking can make it worse. Not everything has to be said. Sometimes buttoning your lips is good.

2. People show love in different ways

It can take a lot of pressure off if you learn to recognize their way of showing love.

Maybe they do stuff for you, or say nice things, or show affection. It might not be the way you would ideally love to be loved, but seeing it for what it is also feels good.

3. Letting things go is the only way to stay sane

At the start of a relationship we think everything will be perfect. And in one of the infinite, parallel universes out there, it probably is. But not this one.

They aren’t perfect, you aren’t perfect. Let things go and hopefully they’ll return the favor. Which means less stress all around.

4. Tears are not your friends when arguing

I know it’s hard not to cry if you’re mid-argument and you’re incredibly frustrated, or hurt, or angry. But tears make it hard to keep the focus on the discussion at hand.

It can become about comforting you. It can be unfair to the other person. It can seem – and I’m not saying this is intentional – manipulative.

As much as you can, keep the focus on the issue and keep it together. You can go cry into a packet of Tim Tams later.

5. Rationality is worth the discipline/effort

Don’t give in to drama, hysterics and (my personal fave) histrionics.

It may give you the short-term advantage in an argument, but in the long term it may cost you their respect, and your own.

You won’t always succeed, but make the effort to think clearly, speak calmly, and stay mindful of other ways of seeing the situation. Cultivate rationality and it will become a habit. A valuable one.

6. You have to take responsibility for your own happiness

Expecting other people to make you happy is too much pressure for them, and a recipe for disappointment for you.

Taking responsibility for your own experience of life lets you enjoy people without leaning on them so much.

You might have to tell your partner exactly what you want for your birthday instead of expecting them to remember that you obliquely alluded to it three months ago. You may need to go to the theater with a friend rather than haranguing your partner to come with you and then rebuking them for nodding off before the curtain is all the way up.

But when you do, you’ll find happiness is much easier when it doesn’t involve hoping and wishing and praying people would do what you wanted them to.

7. Putting all your emotional eggs in one basket can make you a basket case

Yes I’m a little proud of that turn of phrase.

Seriously though, you need to spread your emotional capital around a bit.

It helps you weather the inevitable bad patches in your relationship if you’ve made time for other people – friends, family, colleagues. They will be there for you.

And it makes you way more attractive to your partner if you’re not a giant clod of neediness.

8. Sex makes up for a lot

Sex creates intimacy. It gives you secret stuff together. It feels good.

Nike says it best: Just do it. But maybe not while wearing the shoes.

9. Your battles will pick themselves if you let them

Let little things go. Let medium-sized things go too, if you can.

But if something keeps coming up for you, time after time, or starts leaking out into snide comments or passive-aggressive behaviors, then you probably need to speak up.

Big issues may need big conversations.

Sometimes, though, the conversation just has to be, ‘I’m not asking you to change this, but I need to tell you that [whatever] is bugging the crap out of me.’ Owning it can be empowering.

If you don’t insist they change, they might be happy to. But don’t expect it.

10. If you want the truth, be prepared for it to hurt

You can’t have it both ways. You can’t demand the truth and then be grossly offended when the answer sucks the big one.

If you ask, ‘Do I look fat in this’, then be prepared to hear ‘Uh, yeah’. You’re a grown-up. You can take it.

If what you really want is reassurance, then take responsibility for yourself and say, ‘I’m feeling fat/unattractive/blah and I want you to please tell me I look great”.

Anything else is unfair.

11. Humor is relationship lubricant

If you can make each other laugh, you’ll oil the hinges of your relationship and reduce friction. With a vocabulary of humor, you can defuse tension with a joke or funny comment.

Being silly together strengthens the bond between you, too. It’s like the five-year-old in you has its own relationship with the five-year-old in them.

When things are good, take every opportunity to laugh together. Why do I feel like I need to go to the hardware store?

12. Friends who always take your side are not the only friends you should have

Yes you want your friends to be your cheerleaders and your support network.

But you also need friends who can give you another perspective about your relationship when needed. Friends who help you see The Other Side of the argument. (The what now? you say. Oh you are funny.)

If your friends are always happy to be the chorus in your ’97 Reasons Why My Partner Sucks’ stage show, then you need a more varied cast.

13. Keeping yourself nice is essential

No matter how secure you feel in the relationship, no matter how much they say they’ll love you regardless of how you look, don’t let yourself go.
Dress well, get a good haircut, work out, be a foxy treat.

No one wants to be loved in spite of the way they look. Make the most of what your mamma gave ya. Feel good about yourself. The less you’re insecure about yourself, the more you’re emotionally available to others.

14. You have to be an individual before you can be part of a (happy) couple

Spend time alone, have your own opinions, read the books you want, watch the movies you like, hang with your own friends.

I’m not suggesting you act deliberately contrary, but don’t force yourself into a couple-shaped package and cut off the bits of you that don’t fit.

Compromise, show respect, be considerate, but stay you. Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else, as Judy Garland so beautifully put it. You are the only unique thing you have.

15. Marriage is way hard

The things I value most in life – having great relationships, doing something I find meaningful, running a business, staying fit and healthy – they all take a slightly ridiculous amount of work.

Not all things that are challenging are worth having, but it seems as though many things worth having are annoyingly difficult.

Maybe it’s human nature to take easy things for granted. Maybe we’re wired to need a struggle. Maybe entropy makes us all Sisyphus, eternally pushing our boulders up the hill.

Relationships aren’t always this way – as Stevie Nicks says, sometimes it’s a bitch, sometime it’s a dream.

And we do need to be prepared that sometimes it really is a total, freakin bitch.

But when it’s not, we can sit back… and enjoy the dream.

Tuesday, December 18, 2012

Michael Jordan: I have missed more than 9000 shots....

" I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed".
 
Michael Jordan

Career Planning Tips


Building a Career

Today, and more than ever, most people are responsible for building their own careers.

Whether you are just starting, or you have several years of experience, these paragraphs might help you advance your career.
The 9 most important career planning tips is listed below:

1. Never Stop Learning
Life-long learning is your keyword.

The world is constantly changing, and everybody is looking for new ways of doing business.
If you have decided that your current skills are good enough, you have also decided that your current job is good enough.

But if you want a career in the future, you should add regular updates to your skills and knowledge.

2. Ask, Listen And Learn
A good listener can learn a lot.
Listen to your co-workers, your boss, and your superiors. You can learn a lot from their experience.

Ask about issues that interest you, and listen to what they say. Let them tell you about how things work, and what you could have done better.

Most people will love to be your free tutor.

3. Fulfill Your Current Job
Your current job might be best place to start your career.

It is often very little that separates successful people from the average. But nothing comes free.
If you do your job well and fulfill your responsibilities, this is often the best way to start a new career.

Talk to your supervisor about things you can do. Suggest improvements. Offer your help when help is needed. In return ask for help to build a better career. It is often possible - right inside your own organization - especially if you have proved to be a valued employee.

4. Build Your Network
Your next career step might arise from your contact network.
Did you know that more than 50% of all jobs are obtained from contact networks?
If you have a good contact network, it is also a good place to discover future careers, to explore new trends, and to learn about new opportunities.

Spend some time building new contacts, and don't forget to maintain the ones you already have.

One of the best ways to get serious information from your network is to regularly ask your contacts how they are, what they do, and what is new about their careers.

5. Identify Your Current Job
Your current job should be identified, not assumed.

Make sure you don't work with tasks you assume are important. This is waste of time and talent.
When you start in a new job, talk to your superior about your priorities. If you're not sure about what is most important, then ask him. And ask him again. Often you will be surprised about the differences between what you assume, and what is really important.

6. Identify Your Next Job
Your dream job must be identified.
Before you start planning your future career, be sure you have identified your dream job.

In your dream job, you will be doing all the things you enjoy, and none of the things you don't enjoy. What kind of job would that be?
Do you like or dislike having responsibility for other employees. Do you like to work with technology or with people? Do you want to run your own business? Do you want to be an artist, a designer or a skilled engineer? A manager?

Before building your future career your goal must be identified.

7. Prepare Yourself
Your dream might show up tomorrow. Be prepared.

Don't wait a second. Update your CV now, and continue to update it regularly.
Tomorrow your dream job may show up right before your nose. Prepare for it with a professional CV and be ready to describe yourself as a valuable object to anyone that will try to recruit you.

If you don't know how to write a CV, or how to describe yourself, start learning it now.

8. Pick The Right Tools
Pick the tools you can handle.

You can build your future career using a lot of different tools. Studying at W3Schools is easy. Taking a full master degree is more complicated.
You can add a lot to your career by studying books and tutorials (like the one you find at W3Schools). Doing short time courses with certification tests might add valuable weight to your CV. And don't forget: Your current job is often the most valuable source of building new skills.

Don't pick a tool that is too heavy for you to handle!

9. Realize Your Dreams
Put your dreams into action.

Don't let a busy job kill your dreams. If you have higher goals, put them into action now.
If you have plans about taking more education, getting a better job, starting your own company or something else, you should not use your daily job as a "waiting station". Your daily job will get more and more busy, you will be caught up in the rat race, and you will burn up your energy.

If you have this energy, you should use it now, to realize your dreams.

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Six Tips to Help Relaunch Your Career

Check out these six tips to help prepare you to pursue a new career.
Are you looking to explore a new career path?
With the national unemployment rate at 9.1 percent, according to the U.S. Department of Labor's August statistics, you might think it's impossible to find a job in this tough economy.
But there are positive steps you can take to help make yourself - and your resume - more attractive to employers.
From advancing your education to interview and resume advice, consider these six tips when preparing to relaunch your career...

Tip #1 - Know what you want in a career

Be clear about what you want in your professional life.
"Focus on the skills you wish to use; issues or topics you will address; people you will engage as colleagues and as customers or clients; and what environmental factors you need to remain energized," says Steve Langerud, a workplace consultant who has worked with over 15,000 people on career and workplace issues.

Having a clear understanding of what you want from your future career could help you make a satisfying switch.

Tip #2 - Network, network, network

"The key to finding work in this tough economy comes down to who you know, and more importantly who knows you," says Amanda Guralski, president of bizMe Consulting, a career coaching firm that guides young professionals learning the ropes. "The jobs are out there, but you have to be willing to put in the work to find them."
When preparing to relaunch your career, Guralski encourages applicants to get out there and take a chance to make things happen.
And don't think it's all about going to events and dinners, social networking sites like LinkedIn can also help you stay connected as well.

Tip #3 - Go back to school and earn a degree


Alexandra Kralicek, recruiting operations supervisor at Swedish Medical Center, says that advanced degrees and industry-specific certifications could go a long way in differentiating yourself from other applicants.

"In addition to bumping up your credentials, enrollment in an educational advancement opportunity helps bridge gaps in employment on your resume and makes you a much more attractive candidate for a recruiter to recommend to a hiring manager," Kralicek says.

Tip #4 - Send a cover letter

For job-seekers aiming to return to the work force, Mark Stevens, best-selling author of "Your Marketing Sucks," recommends always sending a cover letter.
"Don't just regurgitate your educational experience or duplicate your resume - sell yourself," Stevens says.
Cover letters should be specific for each job you apply to, notes the career services office at St. John's College in New Mexico. This could help show employers that you dedicated time to researching their company.

Tip #5 - Brand yourself

Lisa Johnson Mandell, author of "Career Comeback: Repackage Yourself to Get the Job You Want," says that every potential employer should know what you consistently stand for and how you are different from the rest of the applicants.
When reviving your career, Mandell suggests finding your true niche and making it known. You should pick your greatest asset and make yourself into the poster child for it.
As an example, Mandell says, "You're not just a CEO, but you're also the CEO who can trim the fat and cut budgets in half."
As another example, the website about.me provides a centralized online space where users can build - and promote - their brand.

Tip #6 - Get ready for the interview


Be prepared for the interview. "Make sure you know about the company, what they do, where they are located, and their mission," according to Andrew Schrage, editor of the finance blog, Money Crashers.

Schrage also encourages you to have a list of questions to ask the hiring manager at the end of the interview.
"Not only is it your chance to learn if this is a position or internship you would like, but it is also a chance for you to show your enthusiasm for the job," Schrage says.

http://education.yahoo.net/articles/tips_to_help_renew_your_career.htm

25 Hot Tips For Managing Your Career

Since 1978, I've spent more than 25,000 hours as a career consultant listening to people talk about
their work. My clients have included CEOs, law firm partners, professional athletes, engineers, factory workers—you name it. They've shared their highs and lows, and their innermost secrets. They've taught me the dos and dont's of corporate politics and given me the keys to success. My sixteen years of career counseling can be boiled down to a few short lessons:

1.Achieving success usually involves sacrifice. If it were always easy, everyone would drive a Porsche.

2.Even if you work for a big company, you're essentially on your own. Businesses offer career paths, training, and teambuilding, and they want to be fair, but they're subject to impersonal market conditions like mergers, acquisitions, takeovers, and international competition; so anything can happen.

 That's why your employer can't be responsible for your career. You have to take charge of it yourself. Those who expect companies to take care of them, or to "do the right thing" are often disappointed. Chances are, no one will ever care more about your career than you do.

3.The workplace can be fun and challenging. It can also be difficult. It rewards effort, planning, and training, but it punishes indifference and lack of preparation. Those who don't take charge of their own careers—who just let things happen—often end up in painful, dead-end jobs, feeling trapped in unhappy lifestyles.

4.People are very different. Certain people belong in certain kinds of careers. You have special gifts that fit you for some jobs and disqualify you from others. If you're in the right place, you'll skyrocket. If not, you'll struggle. In order to learn where you'll be happiest, get to know yourself.

Take time to assess your skills, temperament, aptitudes, likes, dislikes, and natural gifts. Design your ideal worklife on paper, then risk to create your dream. There's no reason you can't enjoy your work. If you need help designing or implementing your plan, seek the advice of a professional career counselor. (But never pay large counseling fees in advance. Pay only by the hour.)

5.Your career may be your biggest financial resource—more valuable than any stock you could own. For example, let's assume you're earning $20,000 per year today. The average annual pay raise is about 5%. If you earn 8% instead, you'll earn an extra $264,000 in 20 years. You may be paid what you're worth right now, but investigate the market. Don't over- or under-price yourself.

6.Jumping from job to job—from Salesman to Customer Service Representative, then to Teacher, Staff Accountant, and Technical Writer—isn't a career. Beginning as an Accounts Payable Clerk, then progressing to Junior Accountant, Accountant, Controller, Chief Financial Officer, and Vice President of Finance is a career. A career builds on itself over time.

 In a growing and expanding industry like Environmental Science, job changing isn't necessarily a problem, because there are always too few experienced workers. But in a declining industry like Oil & Gas, where established companies are systematically downsizing and keeping only their top performers, moving from employer to employer makes a candidate an unattractive hire. That's more true the older you get and the higher your pay.

7.Changing fields, industries, or functional specialties is difficult, and the bigger the change, the more difficult it is. Hardwood manufacturers may not want you if you've been in softwood. And vice versa. Therefore, choose your direction carefully. Once you leave a career path to try something new, it may be difficult to re-enter. You'll look like a "traitor" to insiders, and you'll be competing with those who've stayed.

8.Today's engineering graduate is obsolete in less than five years. You may be too. If you aren't learning something new today, you may be out-of-date and unmarketable tomorrow. That's especially true for those over 40. (If you're over 40, do you know Microsoft Word? How about Excel?)

9.Think of your career as a public relations campaign, much like running for political office. Your goal is to get many people to like you as quickly as possible. (And keep liking you.) Therefore, every person—male, female, minority, old, young—is important. Treat all others with kindness and respect. Make life a little easier for those around you, and your career will benefit.

10."People skills" are just as important as "technical skills," because even in highly technical jobs, you have to work with others. Many outplacement candidates are technical superstars who've been fired. They knew their jobs, but couldn't collaborate or get along with others. Average performers with strong people skills often last longer. It's better to be a "people person" with average skills than to be an abrasive expert who wins at the expense of others.

11.Be careful expressing strong emotions in business, especially anger and disappointment. Communicate your feelings quietly and tactfully. Understate your case. Anger is powerful, even when expressed softly. Don't explode, threaten, or attack others publicly. Don't tell opponents off, even if it would feel great.

 Burning bridges damages your reputation—not only with the person you dislike—but with the business community at large. Remember, if you make an enemy today, it may take them ten years to "get you." But chances are, they will.

12.Spend time with people you admire. Success really does rub off. There's no substitute for "knowing the right people," and for "being in the right place at the right time." Take a risk to contact someone you'd like to meet.

13.Whether you are an entry-level shipping clerk or a CEO, a warm, enthusiastic, caring, and positive attitude—outwardly expressed to others—is your single biggest career asset.

14.On any given day, your present job may end, even if you own the company! Therefore, think short-term. Don't take your present opportunity for granted. I define a consultant as "Someone who wakes up every morning unemployed." You should feel the same way. Get up every morning feeling unemployed, and constantly fight to prove yourself. Appreciate your job, but figure out what you're going to do next. It's always nice to have a "Plan B."

15.Except in rare cases, don't sue your former employer if you're fired or laid off. Take a good, hard look at yourself. Ask yourself what, if anything, you could have done differently. Did you stay on the leading edge of technology? Were you too political? Not political enough? Were you giving it 110%? Did you get complacent?

 Honestly determine your part in causing the problem. Then work to create a better life for yourself, even if you think it was the employer's fault. Don't dwell on the past. It's non-productive and it prolongs your unhappiness.

16.If you lose your job, 80% of your marketing for a new position will already have been done. That's right. Your reputation, results, accomplishments, people skills, contributions, and friendships are all a matter of record. If you've been a contributor, if you've been kind to others and easy-to-work-with, you'll be in demand. If not, you won't. No career consultant in the world can create close friendships and a good reputation for you if you haven't laid the groundwork yourself.

17.Your friends—even distant friends—are your best allies in your life and in your career, especially in job hunting. No one will help you more than those who already know you. So make an extensive list of your business and personal contacts (essentially, everyone you've met), and stay in touch with them, even after you've found a new job. I use CardScan to scan business cards, automatically enter names into my database, and store my contacts online. I can access my network from any Internet connection. Perfect for traveling. Nothing could be easier.

18.Employers hire their friends first. Only when they run out of familiar faces do they consider hiring strangers. When companies recruit from a group of outsiders, they interview, test and screen heavily. Your best career strategy—besides keeping your skills up-to-date and achieving a lot—is to cultivate deep, long lasting friendships.

19.Your accomplishments are your calling card for the future. They will help to determine your marketability. In selling yourself, it's results that count. A baseball player who gets a hit every time at bat is easier to market than one who doesn't. It's that simple. Try to contribute something substantial and measurable every single day. And make sure you keep a written record of your results in something like a FranklinCovey diary.

20.Don't let yourself be unemployed, even for a day. Volunteer a few hours, work part-time for a temporary agency, help a friend in his or her company. Do something to get yourself out of the house. We live in a fast-changing world. Look carefully. There are people all around you who need your help.

21.Love, happiness, friendship, and time for oneself are just as important as making it big in the world. If your career is your whole life, you're vulnerable to disappointment and burnout; and burned out people are often less marketable.

22.Too much success can kill you. Learn when enough is enough. If you think you're burning out, you may be right. Highly successful people are the most subject to burnout. They demand too much from themselves—and from everyone around them. Seek balance. Remember The Golden Mean: "All things in moderation."

23.Don't stay in a job you hate. Hating your daily routine can ruin your health; and it can make everyone around you, including your spouse and family, miserable. Take a risk! Take action! Change things!

24.Don't make excuses when things go wrong. I have collected a list of "101 Handy Excuses," and few of them are valid. When facing challenges, tell yourself this: "I'm in control of my own future. No one can deny me a happy life if I decide to plan it and work for it. Ultimately, no one can stop me from becoming successful but myself."

25.Whatever your expertise, give some of it away.
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