Thursday, February 28, 2013

The Most Successful Leaders Do 15 Things Automatically, Every Day


Leadership is learned behavior that becomes unconscious and automatic over time.  For example, leaders can make several important decisions about an issue in the time it takes others to understand the question.   Many people wonder how leaders know how to make the best decisions, often under immense pressure. 

The process of making these decisions comes from an accumulation of experiences and encounters with a multitude of difference circumstances, personality types and unforeseen failures.   More so, the decision making process is an acute understanding of being familiar with the cause and effect of behavioral and circumstantial patterns;  knowing the intelligence and interconnection points of the variables involved in these patterns allows a leader to confidently make decisions and project the probability of their desired outcomes.  

The most successful leaders are instinctual decision makers.  Having done it so many times throughout their careers, they become immune to the pressure associated with decision making and extremely intuitive about the process of making the most strategic and best decisions. This is why most senior executives will tell you they depend strongly upon their “gut-feel” when making difficult decisions at a moment’s notice.

Beyond decision making, successful leadership across all areas becomes learned and instinctual over a period of time. Successful leaders have learned the mastery of anticipating business patterns, finding opportunities in pressure situations, serving the people they lead and overcoming hardships.   No wonder the best CEOs are paid so much money.   In 2011, salaries for the 200 top-paid CEOs rose 5 percent to a median $14.5 million per year, according to a study by compensation-data company Equilar for The New York Times.

If you are looking to advance your career into a leadership capacity and / or already assume leadership responsibilities – here are 15 things you must do automatically, every day, to be a successful leader in the workplace:

1.  Make Others Feel Safe to Speak-Up
Many times leaders intimidate their colleagues with their title and power when they walk into a room.   Successful leaders deflect attention away from themselves and encourage others to voice their opinions.  They are experts at making others feel safe to speak-up and confidently share their perspectives and points of view.   They use their executive presence to create an approachable environment.

2.  Make Decisions
Successful leaders are expert decision makers.    They either facilitate the dialogue to empower their colleagues to reach a strategic conclusion or they do it themselves.  They focus on “making things happen” at all times – decision making activities that sustain progress.   Successful leaders have mastered the art of politicking and thus don’t waste their time on issues that disrupt momentum.  They know how to make 30 decisions in 30 minutes.

3.  Communicate Expectations
Successful leaders are great communicators, and this is especially true when it comes to “performance expectations.”   In doing so, they remind their colleagues of the organization’s core values and mission statement – ensuring that their vision is properly translated and actionable objectives are properly executed.
I had a boss that managed the team by reminding us of the expectations that she had of the group.   She made it easy for the team to stay focused and on track.  The protocol she implemented – by clearly communicating expectations – increased performance and helped to identify those on the team that could not keep up with the standards she expected from us.

4.  Challenge People to Think
The most successful leaders understand their colleagues’ mindsets, capabilities and areas for improvement.  They use this knowledge/insight to challenge their teams to think and stretch them to reach for more.   These types of leaders excel in keeping their people on their toes, never allowing them to get comfortable and enabling them with the tools to grow.
If you are not thinking, you’re not learning new things.  If you’re not learning, you’re not growing – and over time becoming irrelevant in your work.

5.  Be Accountable to Others
Successful leaders allow their colleagues to manage them.  This doesn’t mean they are allowing others to control them – but rather becoming accountable to assure they are being proactive to their colleagues needs.
Beyond just mentoring and sponsoring selected employees, being accountable to others is a sign that your leader is focused more on your success than just their own.

6.  Lead by Example
Leading by example sounds easy, but few leaders are consistent with this one.   Successful leaders practice what they preach and are mindful of their actions. They know everyone is watching them and therefore are incredibly intuitive about detecting those who are observing their every move, waiting to detect a performance shortfall.

7.  Measure & Reward Performance
Great leaders always have a strong “pulse” on business performance and those people who are the performance champions. Not only do they review the numbers and measure performance ROI, they are active in acknowledging hard work and efforts (no matter the result).    Successful leaders never take consistent performers for granted and are mindful of rewarding them.

8.  Provide Continuous Feedback
Employees want their leaders to know that they are paying attention to them and they appreciate any insights along the way.  Successful leaders always provide feedback and they welcome reciprocal feedback by creating trustworthy relationships with their colleagues..   They understand the power of perspective and have learned the importance of feedback early on in their career as it has served them to enable workplace advancement.

9.  Properly Allocate and Deploy Talent
Successful leaders know their talent pool and how to use it.  They are experts at activating the capabilities of their colleagues and knowing when to deploy their unique skill sets given the circumstances at hand. 

10.  Ask Questions, Seek Counsel
Successful leaders ask questions and seek counsel all the time.  From the outside, they appear to know-it-all – yet on the inside, they have a deep thirst for knowledge and constantly are on the look-out to learn new things because of their commitment to making themselves better through the wisdom of others.

11.  Problem Solve; Avoid Procrastination
Successful leaders tackle issues head-on and know how to discover the heart of the matter at hand.    They don’t procrastinate and thus become incredibly proficient at problem solving; they learn from and don’t avoid uncomfortable circumstances (they welcome them).
Getting ahead in life is about doing the things that most people don’t like doing.

12.  Positive Energy & Attitude
Successful leaders create a positive and inspiring workplace culture.  They know how to set the tone and bring an attitude that motivates their colleagues to take action.   As such, they are likeable, respected and strong willed.  They don’t allow failures to disrupt momentum.

13.  Be a Great Teacher
Many employees in the workplace will tell you that their leaders have stopped being teachers.   Successful leaders never stop teaching because they are so self-motivated to learn themselves.  They use teaching to keep their colleagues well-informed and knowledgeable through statistics, trends, and other newsworthy items.
Successful leaders take the time to mentor their colleagues and make the investment to sponsor those who have proven they are able and eager to advance.

14.  Invest in Relationships
Successful leaders don’t focus on protecting their domain – instead they expand it by investing in mutually beneficial relationships. Successful leaders associate themselves with “lifters and other leaders” – the types of people that can broaden their sphere of influence.  Not only for their own advancement, but that of others.
Leaders share the harvest of their success to help build momentum for those around them.

15.  Genuinely Enjoy Responsibilities
Successful leaders love being leaders – not for the sake of power but for the meaningful and purposeful impact they can create.   When you have reached a senior level of leadership – it’s about your ability to serve others and this can’t be accomplished unless you genuinely enjoy what you do.
In the end, successful leaders are able to sustain their success because these 15 things ultimately allow them to increase the value of their organization’s brand – while at the same time minimize the operating risk profile.   They serve as the enablers of talent, culture and results.

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50 Fitness Facts You Need to Know

Here are 50 fitness facts and words to live by. These thoughts will change the way you think about your fitness lifestyle.


Fitness Facts


1.       Carbohydrates, protein, fat, and alcohol have 4, 4, 9, and 7 calories per gram respectively.

2.       It takes a 3500 calorie deficit to lose 1 pound.

3.       Insulin and growth hormone have an inverse relationship.

4.       The average person can store 500 grams of glycogen.

5.       Only fat and protein are essential macronutrients – carbohydrates aren’t.

6.       Muscle glycogen is about 3 parts water to 1 part glucose.

7.       You burn more calories during the 23 hours you don’t exercise than the 1 hour you do.

8.       You don’t need to do cardio to lose weight.

9.       The fat burning zone does not burn more total fat calories – only a higher percentage of calories from fat.

10.     You’re never too old to do squats.

11.     Weight loss is not a physical challenge – it’s a mental one.

12.     The scale cannot measure body fat percentage. However, this $5 body fat caliper can.

13.     You can eat anything you want and still lose weight – but weight doesn’t always equal fat.

14.     You can’t target fat loss – fat loss is systemic.

15.     Muscle does not weigh more than fat – it’s just denser than it.

16.     0 grams of fat on a label doesn’t always mean there’s no fat in the food product.

17.     Whole grain bread is still a processed food – pick one that has few ingredients.

18.     Eating healthy is not more expensive than a junk food diet.

19.     You can’t calculate body fat percentage from height and weight alone – you need to physically measure it.

20.     You can get glucose from both protein and glycerol – not just carbohydrates.

21.     Just because a box says “whole grain” on it, it doesn’t make it healthy.

22.     You should never attempt weight loss at the expense of your health.

23.     Being vegetarian doesn’t just mean you don’t eat meat – it means you follow a plant-based diet.

24.     Workout times and negative side effects are positively correlated.

25.     Gym membership prices are negotiable.

26.     Cooking your food can both lower some nutrient content, and make some more bioavailable.

27.     There’s a high correlation between the fitness level of the people close to you, and your own physical fitness.

28.     It’s harder to put on 10 pounds of muscle than it is to lose 10 pounds of fat.

29.     Once an adult, fat cells can be created, but they cannot be lost – only shrunken.

30.     Eating at night does not make you fat – overeating does.

31.     You don’t need to do curls to get good biceps.

32.     Being skinny does not automatically mean you have a low body fat.

33.     The perimeter of the grocery store is where 90% of the healthy food is.

34.     If bad food is in the house, you’ll be more likely to eat it.

35.     Thyroid hormone output and exercise intensity are positively correlated.

36.     Healthy levels of testosterone are good for both men and women.

37.     You don’t need a gym membership to strength train.

38.     Unless you weigh less than 100 pounds, it’s unlikely you need less than 1000 calories to lose weight.

39.     Workout intensity is positively correlated with the degree of EPOC – the afterburn effect.

40.     There are 3 types of skeletal muscle fibers – type I, type II-A, and type II-B.

41.     80% of people who begin an exercise program will quit.

42.     The body has 3 energy systems – ATP-PC, anaerobic glycolysis, and aerobic.

43.     Strength gains come from muscle hypertrophy and improved muscle fiber recruitment.

44.     Dehydrating a muscle by 3% can cause a 10% loss of strength.

45.     The thermic effect of food (TEF) is highest for protein.

46.     Lactic acid is not the cause of delayed-onset muscle soreness (DOMS).

47.     The more muscle mass you have, the more calories you burn at rest.

48.     Direct abdominal exercises are not necessary to get good abs.

49.     You can lose weight and still gain muscle; likewise, you can also gain weight while still losing fat.

50.     Consistency and patience are key to long term successful weight loss.

http://www.coachcalorie.com/fitness-facts/
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Sunday, February 24, 2013

10 Ways to Love Yourself First

As parents, spouses, children and friends, we are always so concerned with those around us, but often lose sight of taking care of the person that matters most.We usually don't even consider ourselves to be one of our own top 5 priorities.However, as we have heard repeatedly...

You first have to love yourself before you can truly love someone else.While we are not perfect, we are more than worthy of love and need to understand and embrace that on a daily basis.With all the thoughtful acts of appreciation and adoration that take place at this special time of year, there could not be a more perfect occasion to put yourself first for just a day, an hour or a few precious minutes.

For those who rarely think of themselves and might be unsure of where to start, I have come up with a list of "10 Ways to Love Yourself First."For each of the 10 categories, there are three levels of ways to reward yourself, depending on your personal desires and constraints."Show the Love" includes suggestions at a basic level, "True Love" kicks it up a notch, and "Love of a Lifetime" describes dream events and opportunities.

I hope that you can find a suggestion in my list of "10 Ways to Love Yourself First" that will remind you how special and worthy you are:

1. Favorite Book
-Show the Love: Take the time to read a beloved book from your collection this weekend
-True Love: Research and buy what you think will be your new favorite, then read it
-Love of a Lifetime: Schedule a getaway weekend and take your newly purchased read along

2. Technology
-Show the Love: Download an app that will increase work productivity, streamline daily tasks, or provide hours of mindless entertainment
-True Love: Purchase a time-saving, work- and life-organizing software for your computer, or better yet, find one that provides an outlet to express your creativity
-Love of a Lifetime: Upgrade your phone, tablet, notebook, desktop, or camera with the latest and greatest technology on the market

3. Spa Treatments
-Show the Love: Treat yourself to a manicure or pedicure over your lunch break
-True Love: Spend a day at the spa getting a facial, massage, manicure and pedicure
-Love of a Lifetime: Embark on a spa retreat filled with days of lavish services


4. New Clothes

-Show the Love: Buy yourself an article of clothing or shoes that caught your eye
-True Love: Purchase pieces of clothing and accessories that build an outfit similar to one that you have "pinned" or seen online
-Love of a Lifetime: Buy that high-end ensemble that you saw in a magazine ad, then wear it in a setting similar to that in which the model was photographed (for example, a nautical outfit can be taken on a cruise, a ski suit would hit the slopes, a bathing suit should be displayed on a flawless sandy beach)

5. Dining Out
-Show the Love: Treat yourself to a quiet lunch at your favorite restaurant
-True Love: Indulge in a night out at the highest star-ranking restaurant in a city near you
-Love of a Lifetime: Splurge on a vacation to Napa, New York City, or Paris where you will find only the best food and drink

6. Jewelry
-Show the Love: Buy a fun necklace and earring set from your fashion accessory retailer
-True Love: Treat yourself to designer charm necklace that you have had your eye on
-Love of a Lifetime: Indulge in sparkly diamond stud earrings or a designer watch that you have dreamed about for years


7. Body

-Show the Love: Get a good workout, rather it be a jog around the block or an hour at the gym
-True Love: Start a healthy eating plan and exercise regimen
-Love of a Lifetime: If you have spent years working to improve your overall health and fitness, consult a doctor or counselor about alternative methods to help with your progress

8. Outside Assistance
-Show the Love: Talk to a therapist about issues and challenges that you need to address
-True Love: Consult with a life coach on how make positive changes and implement them
-Love of a Lifetime: Hire help that can assist with housework, yard work, childcare duties, or after-school tutoring

9. Flowers
-Show the Love: Buy a bouquet of your favorite flowers
-True Love: Send yourself a show-stopping flower arrangement to your home or office
-Love of a Lifetime: Build a cutting garden in your yard that will provide years of endless beauty

10. Sweets
-Show the Love: Make the "pinned" mouth-watering dessert that you have longed to try and allow yourself enjoy it at will
-True Love: Indulge in your favorite Belgian chocolates or cake from the best bakery in town
-Love of a Lifetime: Take a trip to Hershey, Pennsylvania, or better yet, to Switzerland and spoil yourself the way it was meant to be

Regardless of whether you "Show the Love" or go all out with a "Love of a Lifetime," what matters is that you are confirming how important and worthy you are by treating yourself at this special time of year.

Don't let this Valentine's Day go by without doing something special for the person that you should love most... you!

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Friday, February 22, 2013

We Need Struggle

A biology teacher was teaching his students how a caterpillar turns into a butterfly. He told the students that in the next couple of hours, the butterfly would struggle to come out of the cocoon. But no one should help the butterfly. Then he left.The students were waiting and it happened.


The butterfly struggled to get out of the cocoon, and one of the students took pity on it and decided to help the butterfly out of the cocoon against the advice of his teacher. He broke the cocoon to help the butterfly so it didn't have to struggle anymore. But shortly afterwards the butterfly died.

When the teacher returned, he was told what happened. He explained to this student that by helping the butterfly, he had actually killed it because it is a law of nature that the struggle to come out of the cocoon actually helps develop and strengthen its wings. The boy had deprived the butterfly of its struggle and the butterfly died.

Apply this same principle to our lives. Nothing worthwhile in life comes without a struggle. As parents we tend to hurt the ones we love most because we don't allow them to struggle to gain strength.

http://great-motivational-stories.blogspot.com/2008/03/struggle.html

Tuesday, February 19, 2013

The Easy Way To Lasting Self Motivation

How can you become a self motivation expert? Does will power work?

Will power alone will never work over the long term. It isthe hardest way possible to get yourself to do anything.The answer is to discover the secrets of self motivation.Why?

Because it is like trying to open a tin can with your teethwhen there is a can opener in your pocket.Instead you need to tap into the limitless power of yourmind. When you do you can break bad habits, createbeneficial new ones and put yourself back on track easily,quickly and with very little effort.You see...Making changes to enhance the quality of your lifedoes not need to be slow or difficult.

Unfortunately most people are still struggling because they continue to rely onineffective approaches like will power.Forget about will power. Become a self motivation expert!Instead write down one small action you have been puttingoff and answer the following questions and really put somethought into the answers:

1 What am I missing out on of importance by not doing this?

2 What will I gain most by doing this?

3 Why is it important to me to get this done?
4 How is not doing this inconsistent with who I really am?

And then...

Pretend You Have Already Completed the Task:

Get a pen and paper and take 5 minutes to describe how youfeel now that you have already finished the task you havebeen postponing. i.e. as if you have already succeeded.e.g. I have already cleaned the yard and I feel fantastic.My family and friends are really impressed and I feel soproud of myself and so delighted that it is finally done.

The yard looks immaculate, so tidy I have even impressedmyself. I feel so powerful, energetic and motivated. I feelon top of the world. etc. etc.Do this quickly and write with as much emotion as you canexpress. Spend at least 5 minutes on it.You will be surprised at how well this simple process works.You may find that you feel a boost in motivation that getseven better each time you use this process. Do it once a dayfor best results.

Become your own self motivation expert.

http://goarticles.com/article/The-Easy-Way-To-Lasting-Self-Motivation/26328/
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Friday, February 15, 2013

HOW THEY CATCH MONKEYS IN INDIA

Monkey-hunters use a box with an opening at the top, big enough for the monkey to slide its hand in. Inside the box are nuts.

The monkey grabs the nuts and now its hand becomes a fist. The monkey tries to get its hand out but the opening is big enough for the hand to slide in, but too small for the fist to come out. Now the monkey has a choice, either to let go off the nuts and be free forever or hang on to the nuts and get caught.

Guess what it picks every time? You guessed it. He hangs on to the nuts and gets caught.We are no different from monkeys. We all hang on to some nuts that keep us from going forward in life. We keep rationalizing by saying, "I cannot do this because . . ." and whatever comes after "because" are the nuts that we are hanging on to which are holding us back. Successful people don't rationalize.

Two things determine if a person will be a success: reasons and results.Reasons don't count while results do...

http://great-motivational-stories.blogspot.com/2008_04_06_archive.html

Stress Management Shouldn't Create More Stress. 10 Ways To Reduce Unreasonable Stress At Your Workplace.


We all know that stress levels in the workplace are reaching unreasonable levels. And most sensible human beings will agree that we have to take action to fix this problem.

However, some government agencies and, I must say, some consultants are all for creating yet another paper and theoretical exercise that will have little benefit to the employees or the business. Managers don't need lectures on how too much stress diminishes people's creativity and productivity, increases absenteeism, extended sick leave and can result in tribunal payouts of tens or hundreds of thousands of pounds. Managers want assistance not lectures.

Do whatever you can to escape the form filling that supposed ensure you meet certain "stress management standards". Avoid like the plague what are now being called "stress risk assessments". These will require the resources of a full time employee and lead to even more stress!

Rather concentrate on straightforward and easily applied measures to reduce stress and at the same time show employees and regulatory authorities and legal courts that your organisation does stake stress seriously.

Here are just ten you could start with.

1. Ensure your Employee Handbook and Induction has plenty of wording in it that shows that management knows about the adverse effects of too much stress. Explain what people must do if they feel under stress. Go over the top to show that management wants and welcomes discussion reporting of excess stress. Who ever is giving the induction must state this orally too.

2. Have a clear, written and concise procedure that people can follow if they find stress getting out of hand. What can people do if they feel under stress? Who should they speak to? What do they do if it's their boss who is the cause of stress? What help can the business offer? Make sure employees know they also have a responsibility to look after their physical and mental health.

3. Give people clear job descriptions so they know what is required of them and revisit the description every six months to update them. You can do this in the annual or (better) twice-yearly appraisal Involve people in writing and re-negotiating job descriptions. Specifically ask about what can be done to reduce stress and record the answer.

4. Keep referring to stress in newsletters, speeches and meetings. Put stress reduction on the agenda of management meetings and have a set section in the newsletter. Senior managers should include a mention of stress in at least one speech per year.

5. Offer people-management/leadership workshops to managers and supervisors. Many of them don't know how to get the best from their people. Unnecessary tension is caused by ignorance of how to speak to and treat people effectively in the modern workplace. Often supervisors don't know they're a source of stress - nobody tells them. Keep it simple: one day is enough and avoid "models and theories of leadership"!

6. Offer stress management workshops and literature. Even if there are no current stress problems offer the workshops anyway. Even insist people go. Keep it simple - a half-day is enough and avoid all theory! Give people a book or CD on stress management as part of the induction.

7. Offer a time management workshop. It's amazing how people can take better control when they know it's okay to say "no", to scrap a meeting, to scrap a report, to cut short appointments and to find better, quicker less burdensome ways of doing things. Most people get bogged down because they don't think in terms of time management and even when they do, some are too afraid to approach the boss. They will think you'll think, they're lazy or uncooperative.

8. Monitor stress levels.
No, you don't need an 80-question stress climate survey or bureaucratic stress management standards. Just twice a year issue a half-page with one question: "For you personally give three things the organisation could do to reduce unreasonable stress". Make this an anonymous exercise and publish the results with actions taken.

9. Take time to listen and act. If a stress issue is raised, be seen to be taking it seriously. Make time to listen, document the issues and then take action. Whilst keeping confidences publicise what action has been taken.

10. Unfortunately, sooner or later you'll have to prove to some authority that you are doing things to combat unreasonable stress. Therefore keep a running and up-to-date record - just a simple book - of all the things your organisation is doing to reduce stress in the workplace. Record everything. For example, if you run a Recruitment Interviewing Course, record how you amended the content to include an hour or so on testing to see if candidates can cope with the stress of a particular job.

Debate about what stress is, the relative responsibilities of employers and employees and what systems to use will go on and on. You might as well just get on and do what commonsense and good leadership dictates.

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Simple Relaxation -- A Guided Meditation

This guided meditation uses visualization techniques and a subtle rhythm to guide your mind to the relaxing Alpha state. You will experience a deep relaxation of the body and mind. The focus of this meditation is to quiet the Somatic Nervous System (Voluntary Nervous System). 

The Power of Visualization

You can change the world. It's easy. How? In this video, scientist Gregg Braden explains how the Law of Attraction works. That there is a field around us, a collective consciousness, in which we all participate. This collective consciousness creates our reality. It can be influenced by us through our DNA, by using the power of our thoughts and our heart. We can use this law on an individual base but also collectively, to change our world. There's even a formula (the square root of 1%) of how many participants are needed to achieve a certain effect for a bigger group (for instance peace). This has been proven scientifically, through experiments. For changing the whole world population this would only take 8,000 participants. The power of visualization is a gift from God for mankind to take fate into our own hands, and not having to stand by and watch powerlessly. So, let's accept this gift gratefully, and use it!!

Saturday, February 9, 2013

How To overcome insomnia

Just sound of ocean -40 min to relax and fall asleep

10 Excuses That Prevent You From Becoming Successful

Excuses are the tools with which persons with no purpose in view build for themselves great monuments of nothing.” ~Steven Grayhm

We are capable of accomplishing anything and everything our minds can imagine! Then what is holding us back? What prevents us from taking our first step? What we consider to be the CAUSE of failure or BARRIER to the destination is nothing but various masquerades of EXCUSE. Excuse convinces you to accept failure over success. It justifies your inaction and fear of failure, makes you arrogant to mark error and cocky to identify the opportunity, finds impossibility in anything and discourages you from transforming your dreams into reality.
Excuses might relieve you with the temporary satisfaction but frustration occurs in the subconscious mind frequently and exacerbates your disposition when you see others to be overcoming their excuses, emerging through failures and accomplishing their dreams. In a nutshell, theses excuses will never let you be in peace; therefore, it is wise to understand and eliminate your self-imposed limitations before they clutch you under their gravitation.

1. It is very difficult.
Difficulties are nothing but lame excuses that stand in your way to success. They show you the mirror image of what you are. Aparrantly, they may seem to be extremely antagonist but in reality they create opportunities for you on conquering them. Helen Keller is the most remarkable example to win over the unbeatable difficulties. She was 19th months old when she became deaf and blind.
But despite having the most difficult form of disability, she accomplished every seemingly impossible thing in life. She lived the life the fullest and showed great possibilities to live in the gifted and greatest way with physical and mental limitations. Keller was the first deaf and blind ever to earn a Bachelor of Arts degree.“Be of good cheer. Do not think of today’s failures, but of the success that may come tomorrow. You have set yourselves a difficult task, but you will succeed if you persevere; and you will find a joy in overcoming obstacles. Remember, no effort that we make to attain something beautiful is ever lost.” ― Helen Keller

2. I am too young or too old to go for it.
Many people give up pursuing their childhood dreams with the growing age and a time comes when they start feeling ‘It’s too late to give them a try’. Age is just a number and there is no age limit to go for your passion.One of the most successful American folk artist “Grandma Moses” Mary Robertson Moses was the best example of unshakable willpower at an old age. She proved that one should never think of age as the barrier to pursuing passion and achieving the impossible.
She started pursuing her childhood passion at the age of 78 and soon became a world famous painter.Peter Roget, a British natural theologian and lexicographer and inventor of Thesaurus, published his massive list of words in a book ‘Roget’s Thesaurus of English Words and Phrases’ at age of 73.On the other hand, Mozart was only 5 when he was very competent on keyboard & violin and composed music notes. Anne Frank was 12 when she wrote the most matured diary about the beautiful world and compassionate people despite the gruesome cruelty of Hitler. Magnus Carlsen became a chess Grandmaster at the tender age of 13.

3. Nobody takes me seriously or I have been rejected.
I have never been given importance’ is another most damaging excuse which can discourage you at the very initial stage. There is not a single great person who was never ignored or neglected at any point in their lives. Rejections can knock you down but it demands you to have faith in yourself and your actions. When Thomas Edison revealed his invention of electric bulb, everybody laughed at him calling it useless; he failed several thousand times but he never lost his faith.
He knew that his invention will soon lighten the whole world.Many egoistic people give up after some failed attempts. They make the lame excuse, ‘I have been rejected; therefore, I might not succeed here’; ‘I gave my best shot but it seems this is not in my fate’. The greatest basketball player Michael Jordan was thrown out from the basketball team in his high school but he worked against his rejection and became the person what he is today. Ask yourself, can some rejections decide our potential or worth?

4. I am not that much educated
Success has no or least relationship with education. One of the greatest inventors of all time Thomas Edison was home schooled, Albert Einstein left his school when he was 15, Walt Disney dropped out of high school, the founder of Digg.com Kevin Rose was a college drop-out, and Bill gates, Mark Zuckerberg and Steve Jobs were college dropouts. They all have evolved and emerged through failures and experiments.

5. I don’t know how
It is a big but common excuse among others. When Edison started working on his ides of electric bulb, he had a complete vague or abstract idea about how to start but this excuse could not stop him from achieving his mission. He failed thousands of times but never got discouraged. We learn through experiments and nobody is experienced before the journey. The first step will lead you to the answer HOW. The greatest people you have ever inspired of have known the answer of HOW by starting the way towards it.

6. I don’t have time
How many times do you say ‘I don’t have time’? If frequently, then you need to eliminate your negative thoughts. If you don’t have time other than your work, it means you are exerting yourself on something you don’t enjoy. To become successful, one does not require to work 20 or more rigorous hours a day.
When you work for your passion, then spending maximum time on it becomes fun and makes you creative and productive; otherwise, your efficiency and potentiality automatically decreases with overwork.Recently I stumbled upon an incredible 12 year old math genius Gordon Brown. Besides being a full-time school student he attends university lectures on Sundays, knows three different languages- French, Spanish and Latin- and plays piano and violin. If a kid has time to accomplish several things, we should never be short of time.

7. He/she is responsible for my failure
Blame game is a very common tendency, we often make others scapegoat for our outcome by throwing accountability on them. Blaming others is the destructive excuse that keeps you in illusion of being safe and correct. When you blame others, you are not ready to confront your mistakes, make them correct and move forward. Ultimately, you are stressing and harming yourself by letting your excuses to win over your ability. Do not indulge in blame game, look around and find a solution for your problems.

8. It is very risky
“It seems to be a law of nature, inflexible and inexorable, that those who will not risk cannot win.” ~John Paul Jones
Taking a thoughtful, creative and calculated risk is the secret to success. Risk glorifies your accomplishments. Winning over the fear of failure is like winning a battle of life. It is what makes you winner and leaves the losers behind. Never be squeamish about your actions, they all are experiments. If you fail you have learnt something to get better and if not then go to the next round. The greatest risk is never taking any risk because then you never know what you could have achieved.

9. What if/could/would
“The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses…The gift is yours—it is an amazing journey—and you alone are responsible for the quality of it.” ~Bob Moawad
Before taking any decision or stepping towards our goal; what if, Could, and would are the common phrases we think of in the possibility to make the journey stop even before it starts. Whoever has overcome these excuses and pushed forward has wondered at the end.

10. The idea is not perfect or might not work.
Every idea is abstract or not perfect at its initial stage. They emerge, take a shape and get polished up through our actions. We all come across some unique ideas but the winners are those who dare to make them come true through actions and hard work. Famous English naturalist Charles Darwin took long 20 years to develop his theory of natural selection and put them down in a book ‘On the Origin of Species’.Stop making excuses today to find a way to reach your destination anyway and anyhow.
Several excuses are always less convincing than one. ~Aldous Huxley.

http://www.successstories.co.in/10-excuses-that-prevent-you-from-becoming-successful

10 Priceless Gifts You Can Give Yourself For Free

Consider giving yourself the following 10 priceless gifts that come for free and stay with you for your lifetime. These gifts can’t be exchanged for money nor can you expect it from others:

1. A Strong Resolve to Keep on Going
Dreams never come true through magic, they come into reality when you put in the best of yourself- unflagging hard work, awful of perseverance, supreme confidence and patience.

Together they mow down all your opponents and take you several steps closer to your dreams. Each opportunity has its own tricks and reward and it often appears in disguise of temporary failure, seemingly impossible challenge, and apparent misfortune. However, a strong resolve and contagiously positive attitude will ensure you keep on going and tap the best of the opportunities. A strong resolve will make a big difference in your life.

2. Unrestrained Imagination
Non-sense is what ignites creativity and awakens your intellect, compelling you to take actions upon serious consideration. Successful people are great dreamers who make the world go round with their imagination. Think about those imaginary nonsensical ideas that were worked on and took shape of aircraft, rocket, telephone, television, Computer, mobile devices and almost every useful machine and luxurious thing we use today.

If you are not thinking something unreal and weird, you are not actually creating anything innovative things. Remember, the unreal has more potential than the real because the reality today has come through the unreal world.“I am enough of an artist to draw freely upon my imagination. Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited. Imagination encircles the world.” ― Albert Einstein

3. An empty heart to embrace
Everyone is ignorant to something! Ignorance can, in fact, be a greatest gift as it also means your heart is open to embracing new things and learning lessons beyond the facts. Sometimes, we miss some of the greatest opportunities for not having an open mind. Having an open mind is not that you are accepting everything of whatever is coming on the way; it means that you are expanding your mind for better things and discovering your true potential.

4. A positive approach- The glass is half-fullYour thoughts, whether positive or negative, are a powerful instrument that impact the way you are perceive the world around. They impact your every move and hence decide your destiny. Negative thoughts are an equally motivating force that take you to a self-destructive path. We often let ourselves fall into the traps of circumstances or get influenced by swerving moods that ultimately beget misconceptions about ourselves. While your mind is overwhelmed and overtaken by your negative thoughts, is there any place left for positive one to give a lift?External forces or events can’t truly hold you back until you allow yourself to yield to negativity and self-limiting thoughts.

Buddha says it best, “a positive thought, no matter how tiny it may seem, has the potential to uproot a negative thought that weighs the size of a mountain.” Optimism is an awesome human-trait, nurture it.“Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi

5. A Promise to Make the Best Use of what you Have
Different people have different dreams and different ways of accomplishing them but they share a common mission-SUCCESS. To discover your true potential, you have to apply the best of what you have. We seldom use our true potential or use them half-heartedly and stop trying half way through; as a result, we never get the desired results. If you think you don’t have what it takes to succeed, then think aboutDashrath Manjhi, a landless farmer who single-handedly moved a mountain.

6. Give yourself Gratefulness
Appreciating and acknowledging others’ efforts that helped you create opportunity, happiness and hope are the key to getting abundance in life. Showing gratitude will never let you down; rather, it will lead you to some wonderful feelings of love, generosity, and compassion. Gratefulness will help you develop positive aptitude and open your heart to accepting criticism and give you courage to accomplish more beautiful things in life.“At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.” Albert Schweitzer

7. Admission to the School of Life
“Intellectual growth should commence at birth and cease only at death” Education is a treasure and acquiring it consistently and continuously enlightens you with clear vision and better knowledge on how to shape up the indefinite future. Develop a passion for lifelong learning to find the real meaning of life, and live an enriching life of self-fulfillment.“The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn.” Alvin Toffler

8. The Gift of Spiritual Growth
Knowing yourself and controlling your negative thoughts are the biggest challenge and the most significant task which can only be accomplished by engaging in spiritual practices. Spirituality acts as a motivational force or a filter that heals a depressed or stressed mind and engages you in awakening your enlightened-self. Further, it gives you courage to stay motivated and strong in front of difficulties.

You have little or no control on external events but you can control your mind and chose to be happy in the face of adversities. Mind is a very obedient and constructive servant but an equally arrogant and destructive master; therefore, don’t let it rule you. Once you have mastered over your mind, you will reach closer to your destination called realization of the VASTNESS of you.“The goal of spiritual practice is full recovery, and the only thing you need to recover from is a fractured sense of self.” – Marianne Williamson

9. Sense of Humor
Sense of humor plays a most significant role when life throws some worst blows towards you. A well-developed and balanced sense of humor relieves your pain, alleviates your distressed mind, initiates a rich and interesting life, lightens the difficult situations, motivates you to accept challenges with a smile, and saves you from being too serious and monotonous.“A sense of humor… is needed armor. Joy in one’s heart and some laughter on one’s lips is a sign that the person down deep has a pretty good grasp of life.” – Hugh Sidey

10. Your real-self (take the mask off)
If you are pretentious or have kept a false-self within you, then you are frightened of your imperfections and are playing the most foolish and betraying game with yourself. Never try to mold your real-self in any perfect, idealistic and heroic character you have read about, otherwise you will be lost between duel characters and the beauty and simplicity of your soul will be gone for never to return. So gift yourself your real-self.

http://www.successstories.co.in/10-priceless-gifts-you-can-give-yourself-for-free

Friday, February 8, 2013

THE MIDAS TOUCH

We all know the story of the greedy king named Midas. He had a lot of gold and the more he had the more he wanted.
He stored all the gold in his vaults and used to spend time every day counting it.One day while he was counting a stranger came from nowhere and said he would grant him a wish.
The king was delighted and said, "I would like everything I touch to turn to gold."

The stranger asked the king, Are you sure?" The king replied, "Yes." So the stranger said, "Starting tomorrow morning with the sun rays you will get the golden touch." The king thought he must be dreaming, this couldn't be true. But the next day when he woke up, he touched the bed, his clothes, and everything turned to gold.

He looked out of the window and saw his daughter playing in the garden. He decided to give her a surprise and thought she would be happy. But before he went to the garden he decided to read a book. The moment he touched it, it turned into gold and he couldn't read it.

Then he sat to have breakfast and the moment he touched the fruit and the glass of water, they turned to gold. He was getting hungry and he said to himself, "I can't eat and drink gold." Just about that time his daughter came running and he hugged her and she turned into a gold statue. There were no more smiles left.The king bowed his head and started crying. The stranger who gave the wish came again and asked the king if he was happy with his golden touch.

The king said he was the most miserable man. The stranger asked, "What would you rather have, your food and loving daughter or lumps of gold and her golden statue?" The king cried and asked for forgiveness. He said, "I will give up all my gold. Please give me my daughter back because without her I have lost everything wo rth having." The stranger said to the king, "You have become wiser than before" and he reversed the spell. He got his daughter back in his arms and the king learned a lesson that he never forget for the rest of his life.

http://great-motivational-stories.blogspot.com/

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HOW WOULD YOU LIKE TO BE REMEMBERED?

About a hundred years ago, a man looked at the morning newspaper and to his surprise and horror, read his name in the obituary column.
The news papers had reported the death of the wrong person by mistake.

His first response was shock. Am I here or there? When he regained his composure, his second thought was to find out what people had said about him. The obituary read, "Dynamite King Dies." And also "He was the merchant of death."

This man was the inventor of dynamite and when he read the words "merchant of death," he asked himself a question, "Is this how I am going to be remembered?" He got in touch with his feelings and decided that this was not the way he wanted to be remembered. From that day on, he started working toward peace.

His name was Alfred Nobel and he is remembered today by the great Nobel Prize.
Just as Alfred Nobel got in touch with his feelings and redefined his values, we should step back and do the same.

What is your legacy?
How would you like to be remembered?
Will you be spoken well of?
Will you be remembered with love and respect?
Will you be missed?

http://great-motivational-stories.blogspot.com/

Tuesday, February 5, 2013

Research discovers why first impressions are so persistent

New research by a team of psychologists from Canada, Belgium, and the United States shows there is more than a literal truth to the saying that 'you never get a second chance to make a first impression. The findings suggest that new experiences that contradict a first impression become‘bound’ to the context in which they were made.

As a result, the new experiences influence people’s reactions only in that particular context, whereas first impressions still dominate in other contexts. “Imagine you have a new colleague at work and your impression of that person is not very favourable” explains lead author Bertram Gawronski, Canada Research Chair at The University of Western Ontario. “A few weeks later, you meet your colleague at a party and you realize he is actually a very nice guy.

Although you know your first impression was wrong, your gut response to your new colleague will be influenced by your new experience only in contexts that are similar to the party. However, your first impression will still dominate in all other contexts.” According to Gawronski, our brain stores expectancy-violating experiences as exceptions-to-the-rule, such that the rule is treated as valid except for the specific context in which it has been violated.

To investigate the persistence of first impressions, Gawronski and his collaborators showed their study participants either positive or negative information about an unknown individual on a computer screen.

Later in the study, participants were presented with new information about the same individual, which was inconsistent with the initial information. To study the influence of contexts, the researchers subtly changed the background color of the computer screen while participants formed an impression of the target person.

When the researchers subsequently measured participants’ spontaneous reactions to an image of the target person, they found the new information influenced participants’ reactions only when the person was presented against the background in which the new information had been learned.

Otherwise, participants’ reactions were still dominated by the first information when the target person was presented against other backgrounds. Although these results support the common observation that first impressions are notoriously persistent, Gawronski notes they can sometimes be changed. “What is necessary is for the first impression to be challenged in multiple different contexts.

In that case, new experiences become decontextualized and the first impression will slowly lose its power. But, as long as a first impression is challenged only within the same context, you can do whatever you want.

The first impression will dominate regardless of how often it is contradicted by new experiences.” According to Gawronski, the research also has important implications for the treatment of clinical disorders. “If someone with phobic reactions to spiders is seeking help from a psychologist, the therapy will be much more successful if it occurs in multiple different contexts rather than just in the psychologist’s office.”

The research, co-authored with Robert Rydell, Bram Vervliet, and Jan De Houwer, is published in the latest issue of the Journal of Experimental Psychology: General.

http://communications.uwo.ca/com/western_news/stories/research_discovers_why_first_impressions_are_so_persistent_20110118447278/

Saturday, February 2, 2013

5 Reasons Why You Never Hear Back After Applying For A Job


People often wonder why they never hear anything back after they hit ‘send’ on the email with a resume attached or on the on-line job application. If you’re very lucky, you might have a preliminary email exchange with a recruiter and then never hear from them again.
It’s a depressing experience, and one which also casts a shadow on the hiring company’s reputation. So why does it happen? Is it you, is it them, or is it just something every candidate must prepare for in the hiring process?
There’s no question job seekers face an uphill climb. High unemployment nationally means more competition for every position; according to a January 2012 article in the Wall Street Journal, Starbucks “… attracted 7.6 million job applicants over the past 12 months for about 65,000 corporate and retail job openings…”
An oft-cited recruiter’s complaint is that as many as 50 percent of people applying for a given job simply aren’t qualified. Adding to the challenge, most large companies – and many smaller ones – use talent-management software to screen resumes, weeding out up to 50 percent of applicants before a human even looks at a resume or cover letter. The deck is definitely stacked against the job seeker. So how do you break through?
 Here are my top 5 reasons you’re not hearing back after applying for a job, with five suggestions for ways to avoid the Resume Black Hole.

Why You Never Hear Back:
1.     You really aren’t qualified. If a job description specifies a software developer with 3-5 years of experience and you’re a recent graduate with one internship, it’s unlikely you’ll get a call. Avoid disappointment – don’t apply for jobs for which you lack qualifications. Most job descriptions are written with very specific requirements. Yes, the company is trying to find the most qualified candidate; yes, they are trying to weed people out. It’s not personal, it’s business.
2.     You haven’t keyword-optimized your resume or application. Job descriptions are salted with keywords specific to the skills or attributes the company seeks in applicants. A close read of the job description is a necessity, as is keyword-optimizing your resume and cover letter, if you’re using one, or email. If the job description lists words in a certain order, e.g. a list of programming languages required, use the same order in your resume.
3.     Your resume isn’t formatted properly. You might think distinctive formatting will set your resume apart, but automated programs don’t care if a document is pretty. Help a machine out. Be consistent in formatting – consider using separate lines for former employer, job title, and years worked.
4.     Your resume is substantially different from your online profile. LinkedIn, Dice and other online profile sites can be useful tools, so it‘s important to make sure they match what’s on your resume. This may seem to be a contradiction – in #1 I advised keyword optimization – but it’s really common sense. Jobs worked, employers, years on the job and other details should match. The subtext here is always tell the truth.
5.     The company received 500 resumes for one job posting, and yours was 499th in. Looking for a job is a job. Do your research – know which companies you want to work for, organizations where you sense culture fit. Every morning scour the job postings and jump on anything for which you’re qualified (and in which you’re interested.) Being early with your resume or application does matter. Check back often in the first few days to make sure the listing hasn’t changed. Often a company will post a job and halfway through the process change the description.

It’s hard to game the system. Your best bet is still a personal referral, and even that may not be enough to get a call. A guy I know gave his resume to a woman who worked at a company where a good job had been posted. He received an automated email noting his resume had been received but never heard another word. After a month he asked his friend to check with the recruiter. It turned out the job description had changed, but the recruiter never bothered to let the referring employee – or the applicant – know. This isn’t unusual, unfortunately. So what can you do?

How You Can Get Noticed:
1.     Research interesting companies on social media. Find out who the recruiters are and follow them. Many will tweet new postings, so watch their streams and jump on anything for which you are qualified. And if they tweet news saying the company’s had a great quarter, retweet the news with a positive comment.
2.     Consider starting a blog in your area of interest or expertise. It’s a social world; time to build a trail of breadcrumbs leading to you. Include the blog, and links to any especially relevant posts, in your emails to recruiters with whom you’re working.
3.     Get professional help with your resume. Either a resume writer or an SEO expert can help you increase your odds of getting through the talent management software. If you can’t afford this step, read the top career blogs for advice.
4.     If at all possible, don’t wait until you’re out of work to find your next job. I realize for many people this isn’t possible or might even be offensive, but your chances of finding the next job are best when you’re still employed.
5.     Network. Old advice, but still true. Be visible, be upbeat, be informed about industry trends and news in your area of expertise.

Finding a job is tough, no question. I’ve talked to other recruiters who say they only respond to 30 percent of applicants. The odds are good you’ll be in the 60+ percent who hears nothing a lot of the time. Don’t take it personally – it’s not a rejection of you, it’s a reflection of the times. If you don’t hear back, know you’re not alone.

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