To have good or poor self-esteem is probably the most crucial
factor in determining what you will achieve in life.
A good self-esteem is just as fundamental to feel good and
feel safe in life, as attending school every day is to learn to read and write
is.
Why is it so important to have self-esteem? You can have the
best education, job and background, but feel as though that you fail in
everything you do. If our self-esteem is not good, we are automatically drawn
to people and situations that confirm what we think about ourselves. It will be
make it impossible to have balance in life, wherever you are in life in terms of
career, family, etc.
You have probably seen it again and again, where you see
someone you think has everything, but is still drinking, taking drugs, eating
or working themselves to death. Their external success shows all the glory, but
their poor self-esteem is killing the person slowly and effectively from the
inside.
No doctor, psychologist or pills can save that person from a
destructive life, until he starts to take hold of working on his self-esteem.
It goes without saying that the temporary measures to solve things on the
surface are being utilized, but without balance within, there will be no
lasting results. Look at all successful businessmen / women, musicians,
athletes who have all the money in the world, but still can not get any balance
in life.
What caused this? One reason is all the demands from society
that we as individuals, need to be fit in. If you look closer at this, parents
have very few rights, as to how a child is formed during his or her upbringing.
There are doctors, teachers, government agencies, newspapers, neighbors, etc.,
which put different demands on how the child should be and act. That means that
all the good self-esteem that the child is born with, disappears and is soon
gone forever.
No wonder that so many children, teenagers and adults have
challenges with their identity, which then shows itself as different types of
problems within society. The importance of us all having the same down jacket,
appearance, and knowledge, for example, makes many people's self-esteem ruined
for ever.
The key is to let the child develop as much as possible,
without being placed in the position of caring what others think is right and
wrong. The child's unique talents then come forth and the person becomes a
strong individual who does what they want in life, rather than to live a life
where they have to fit into society.
If you already have poor self-esteem, there are measures you
can do. Here are five tips:
1. Make sure you do what you want with your life
2. Do not get stuck thinking that you have to be good enough
in front of others
3. Realize that you are good enough, regardless of what
others think about you
4. Dare to do and be different
5. Do not let anyone insult you. Remember that we often
insult ourselves
Good Luck!
Hans Thorn, Success Coach
http://www.personalcoachingonline.com
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