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Showing posts with label Secrets Of Happiness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Secrets Of Happiness. Show all posts
Tuesday, April 7, 2015
3 Ways To Get Instantly Happier
Now happiness is a universal value that everyone looks for
in their lives. No matter where you live, or what you do, chances are you're
doing the things in your life because you think it will bring you happiness.
So why are so many people unhappy? If we know what happiness
is and we know we want it, why aren't more of us there? How do we get to there?
Well, here's the first thing to be happy about, happiness
has already been figured out!
Thousands of studies that have been done by scientists all
around the world have shown that there are patterns that keep popping up. These
scientists have found the consistent way to achieve happiness and it's really
not that complicated.
You don't need a fancy degree or big brain or lots of money
to get to your happiness. You just need to do three basic things.
And as I go through each thing, I want you to take stock of
your life. I want you to ask yourself (be honest!) if you're doing these things
and, if not, how you can start today.
1) Be Grateful
The first thing we'll look at is gratitude.
Simple, right? Just be grateful. Actually, this is harder
than it looks.
Because life isn't perfect and our lives aren't perfect.
There are plenty of things that we wish we had more of, or less of. Hey,
there's always room for improvement. But starting with gratitude, being
grateful for what you have, is a key first step.
How can you be grateful? Start with awareness. Be aware of
what is around you, no matter how basic.
Be aware of standing on your two feet (not everyone does this),
being above ground (many people are no longer with us), eating three meals a
day (a luxury for many people around the world), and having a roof over your
head (you get the picture).
Be grateful for what you have, because you probably have a
lot compared to many people!
And keep that awareness, that gratitude, as you move through
your day. When you encounter things or people that don't go your way, be
grateful that you encountered them. Because those experiences have a lot to
teach you.
Think of a negative experience that you've had with a
co-worker. You're probably not grateful that you had that negative experience.
But think of all the things that encounter has taught you. You now know what
kind of person that co-worker is. You know how to handle that co-worker in
similar circumstances. And you know how to master your feelings the next time
you work with them. Those are three gifts that you didn't have before that
negative experience. Be grateful for that!
Life is going to throw you curveballs. But if you focus on
how you can't hit a curveball, as any baseball player will tell you, it's going
to get worse. So stay grateful and learn what you can within that gratitude.
2) Remain Engaged
The second important value to look at is engagement. How
engaged are you with the world and the tasks in your life?
I look at my two-year old son and I marvel at how engaged he
is with the world around him. He's discovering all these things around him.
When I watch him color or build with his blocks, you see the concentration in
his eyes. You can see the spark as he engages directly in what he's doing. He's
excited about the thing, anything, whatever it is.
And that's what you need to do. Stay engaged.
It's not easy. Actually it's sometimes downright boring. Our
minds wander or we prioritize something else. But resist that temptation to let
your mind wander to somewhere you think you'll be happier and stay engaged.
Stay engaged at work. Stay engaged in your conversations
with friends and co-workers. Stay engaged no matter what you're doing.
If you're disengaged, that sinking apathetic feeling will
consume you. You'll be missing that spark of life that you need to drive you
forward. Be a kid playing with the new world you've just discovered.
Be engaged.
3) Remain Optimistic
You know, optimism sometimes gets a bum rap. We think of
optimism as being chipper, or bubbly, or worse, completely unrealistic. But you
know what optimism truly is? It's just an anticipation of the future. A belief
in yourself that you can master what lies ahead.
You don't want to be the person that's already beaten before
they've begun. You know the kind. "Aw man," these people say, "I
have to work tomorrow... bleh."
We all know people like that. They're no fun to be around.
Don't be like them.
Take my buddy, Wayne. I've known him for 18 years. He is a
happy person. One look at him and you just know that he's a happy person. He's
always grateful. He's so present. And when he talks to you, even if there are a
million people around you, he makes you feel like you're the only person in the
room. He's directly engaged with you all the time. And he's always positive
about the future. He's happy.
Think about the people in your life. Especially the happy
ones. Are they grateful? Are they engaged? Are they anticipating the future?
Remaining optimistic about the future is no easy task. You
live in the present. And the past has already happened. But how you feel can
take you into the future on a cloud of confidence or slow you down like a
rainstorm.
The promise of the future and all that it holds should be
the thing to fuel you in your present. Optimism is the final piece of your
happiness that begins with being grateful and remaining engaged.
Remembering those three things (gratefulness, engagement,
and optimism) will be helpful to you on your path to happiness. But you must
practice these things regularly. You must actively decide to do these things or
they simply won't work.
Each piece supports the other. To be grateful, you must be
engaged. To be engaged, you must be optimistic. And to be optimistic, you must
be grateful for what you have and what you will have soon.
These things aren't easy to do, and you may not do them all
the time, but being aware of the importance of these three steps is a great way
to get to your happiness.
These are important steps to practice at work, at home, and
with every interaction that you have. Before long, it will become second nature
to you. And you'll have people coming up to you asking, "How do you stay
so... happy?
Saturday, July 20, 2013
How To Be Happy
Find your happiness in seven simple steps! VideoJug consulted with leading researchers and psychologists to learn the secrets to finding - and keeping - your happiness.
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9 Daily Habits That Will Make You Happier
These minor changes in your daily routine will make a major difference in your life and career.
Happiness is the only true measure of personal success. Making other people happy is the highest expression of success, but it's almost impossible to make others happy if you're not happy yourself.
With that in mind, here are nine small changes that you can make to your daily routine that, if you're like most people, will immediately increase the amount of happiness in your life:
1. Start each day with expectation.
If there's any big truth about life, it's that it usually lives up to (or down to) your expectations. Therefore, when you rise from bed, make your first thought: "something wonderful is going to happen today." Guess what? You're probably right.
2. Take time to plan and prioritize.
The most common source of stress is the perception that you've got too much work to do. Rather than obsess about it, pick one thing that, if you get it done today, will move you closer to your highest goal and purpose in life. Then do that first.
3. Give a gift to everyone you meet.
I'm not talking about a formal, wrapped-up present. Your gift can be your smile, a word of thanks or encouragement, a gesture of politeness, even a friendly nod. And never pass beggars without leaving them something. Peace of mind is worth the spare change.
4. Deflect partisan conversations.
Arguments about politics and religion never have a "right" answer but they definitely get people all riled up over things they can't control. When such topics surface, bow out by saying something like: "Thinking about that stuff makes my head hurt."
5. Assume people have good intentions.
Since you can't read minds, you don't really know the "why" behind the "what" that people do. Imputing evil motives to other people's weird behaviors adds extra misery to life, while assuming good intentions leaves you open to reconciliation.
6. Eat high quality food slowly.
Sometimes we can't avoid scarfing something quick to keep us up and running. Even so, at least once a day try to eat something really delicious, like a small chunk of fine cheese or an imported chocolate. Focus on it; taste it; savor it.
7. Let go of your results.
The big enemy of happiness is worry, which comes from focusing on events that are outside your control. Once you've taken action, there's usually nothing more you can do. Focus on the job at hand rather than some weird fantasy of what might happen.
8. Turn off "background" TV.
Many households leave their TVs on as "background noise" while they're doing other things. The entire point of broadcast TV is to make you dissatisfied with your life so that you'll buy more stuff. Why subliminally program yourself to be a mindless consumer?
9. End each day with gratitude.
Just before you go to bed, write down at least one wonderful thing that happened. It might be something as small as a making a child laugh or something as huge as a million dollar deal. Whatever it is, be grateful for that day because it will never come again.
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