How To Feel Happy - Scientifically Proven Ways of Creating Lasting Happiness

How To Feel Happy - Learn how to get lasting fulfillment and happiness in life without succumbing to common pitfalls that only lead to disappointment.

3 Ways To Get Instantly Happier

Now happiness is a universal value that everyone looks for in their lives. No matter where you live, or what you do, chances are you're doing the things in your life because you think it will bring you happiness.

So why are so many people unhappy? If we know what happiness is and we know we want it, why aren't more of us there? How do we get to there?

Well, here's the first thing to be happy about, happiness has already been figured out!

Thousands of studies that have been done by scientists all around the world have shown that there are patterns that keep popping up. These scientists have found the consistent way to achieve happiness and it's really not that complicated.

You don't need a fancy degree or big brain or lots of money to get to your happiness. You just need to do three basic things.

And as I go through each thing, I want you to take stock of your life. I want you to ask yourself (be honest!) if you're doing these things and, if not, how you can start today.

1) Be Grateful

The first thing we'll look at is gratitude.

Simple, right? Just be grateful. Actually, this is harder than it looks.

Because life isn't perfect and our lives aren't perfect. There are plenty of things that we wish we had more of, or less of. Hey, there's always room for improvement. But starting with gratitude, being grateful for what you have, is a key first step.

How can you be grateful? Start with awareness. Be aware of what is around you, no matter how basic.

Be aware of standing on your two feet (not everyone does this), being above ground (many people are no longer with us), eating three meals a day (a luxury for many people around the world), and having a roof over your head (you get the picture).

Be grateful for what you have, because you probably have a lot compared to many people!

And keep that awareness, that gratitude, as you move through your day. When you encounter things or people that don't go your way, be grateful that you encountered them. Because those experiences have a lot to teach you.

Think of a negative experience that you've had with a co-worker. You're probably not grateful that you had that negative experience. But think of all the things that encounter has taught you. You now know what kind of person that co-worker is. You know how to handle that co-worker in similar circumstances. And you know how to master your feelings the next time you work with them. Those are three gifts that you didn't have before that negative experience. Be grateful for that!

Life is going to throw you curveballs. But if you focus on how you can't hit a curveball, as any baseball player will tell you, it's going to get worse. So stay grateful and learn what you can within that gratitude.

2) Remain Engaged

The second important value to look at is engagement. How engaged are you with the world and the tasks in your life?

I look at my two-year old son and I marvel at how engaged he is with the world around him. He's discovering all these things around him. When I watch him color or build with his blocks, you see the concentration in his eyes. You can see the spark as he engages directly in what he's doing. He's excited about the thing, anything, whatever it is.

And that's what you need to do. Stay engaged.

It's not easy. Actually it's sometimes downright boring. Our minds wander or we prioritize something else. But resist that temptation to let your mind wander to somewhere you think you'll be happier and stay engaged.

Stay engaged at work. Stay engaged in your conversations with friends and co-workers. Stay engaged no matter what you're doing.

If you're disengaged, that sinking apathetic feeling will consume you. You'll be missing that spark of life that you need to drive you forward. Be a kid playing with the new world you've just discovered.

Be engaged.

3) Remain Optimistic

You know, optimism sometimes gets a bum rap. We think of optimism as being chipper, or bubbly, or worse, completely unrealistic. But you know what optimism truly is? It's just an anticipation of the future. A belief in yourself that you can master what lies ahead.

You don't want to be the person that's already beaten before they've begun. You know the kind. "Aw man," these people say, "I have to work tomorrow... bleh."

We all know people like that. They're no fun to be around. Don't be like them.

Take my buddy, Wayne. I've known him for 18 years. He is a happy person. One look at him and you just know that he's a happy person. He's always grateful. He's so present. And when he talks to you, even if there are a million people around you, he makes you feel like you're the only person in the room. He's directly engaged with you all the time. And he's always positive about the future. He's happy.

Think about the people in your life. Especially the happy ones. Are they grateful? Are they engaged? Are they anticipating the future?

Remaining optimistic about the future is no easy task. You live in the present. And the past has already happened. But how you feel can take you into the future on a cloud of confidence or slow you down like a rainstorm.

The promise of the future and all that it holds should be the thing to fuel you in your present. Optimism is the final piece of your happiness that begins with being grateful and remaining engaged.

Remembering those three things (gratefulness, engagement, and optimism) will be helpful to you on your path to happiness. But you must practice these things regularly. You must actively decide to do these things or they simply won't work.

Each piece supports the other. To be grateful, you must be engaged. To be engaged, you must be optimistic. And to be optimistic, you must be grateful for what you have and what you will have soon.

These things aren't easy to do, and you may not do them all the time, but being aware of the importance of these three steps is a great way to get to your happiness.

These are important steps to practice at work, at home, and with every interaction that you have. Before long, it will become second nature to you. And you'll have people coming up to you asking, "How do you stay so... happy?

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11 Reasons Why Women Are Unhappy !

Over the past century, women’s social and family life has changed a lot. For the better or worse, women nowadays enjoy more things in life than 100 years ago. Not all changes are good, but they are not bad either. No matter how dynamic life becomes every day, women have proven themselves to be capable of coping with almost every challenge life throws at us.

But, women are not immune to unhappiness. They, like men, have their share of good 

and bad experiences which either toughens them up or makes them quit. Life is able to 

teach us valuable lessons no matter what gender or age we are. Here are 11 reasons 

why women are unhappy even though social life has changed in the last century.

1. Inequality with men

There is no way of avoiding this issue. The role of women in 

society has changed a lot in the 20th century. They have 

proven themselves to the world that they are capable of hard 

work and devotion. When men were fighting two world wars, 

women 

stayed behind working in the factories, working in the fields 

and taking care of the family. Their efforts were noticed and 

slowly but surely equality was established. But even after so 

many years, a lot of women feel unequal in many aspects of 

social life, and that makes them unhappy.

2. Work and Housework

Taking care of the housework is not easy when you have a day 

job. It is hard for a woman to be at work half a day then return 

home and continue with the house work. All those assignments 

put a lot of pressure on women’s stamina and health, ergo 

unhappiness.

3. Passive Husbands

Some husbands can be very insensible when it comes to 

taking care of the children or helping around the house 

chores. It is the wife responsibility to change the dippers, 

turn on the laundry, clean the house and etc. Since most of 

the husbands feel that those are women’s work, they become

 passive and leave everything to them.

4. The women are less paid than men

It is unethical for women to be paid less than men for the 

same assignments at work. Those things are unacceptable 

in companies and bosses often end up with lawsuits if they 

pay women less than men for the same job description. 

Unfortunately, some companies are still doing that and get 

away with it.

5. Men are less paid than women

Yes, even thins can be a problem for a woman. In a 

relationship or in a marriage, when the woman is more paid 

than the man, that seems to cause a problem for the man 

since he is not THE alpha male in the relationship. Their 

unhappiness starts to reflect the woman’s satisfaction. 

In time that bad energy transfers to them and results in 

arguing, problems at home and etc.

6. Men let women pay for romantic dinners

No matter how much money she makes or he makes, it is a 

traditional non-written rule for the man to pay for dinner. 

Nowadays, insensitive men grow like mushrooms and expect 

the women to pay for every meal they have. Now that is 

totally not-gentlemen like.

7. Trouble to cope with obesity

Women are more sensitive about their looks then men. 

For some reason, there are a lot of men who don’t mind 

being fat or have extra pounds on their hips. Some women 

find that to be attractive after all.

But rarely there is a woman that doesn’t want to have a sexy 

body. Even those who say they don’t mind the extra pounds 

think about losing weight. Obesity leads to unhappiness as 

women try very hard to lose pounds and have an attractive 

body. Some don’t have that problem, others do.

8. Boredom

Women are not immune to boredom. Just like men, they are 

exposed to regular boredom that comes from monotony 

and repeated habitual actions. If boredom continues, then 

unhappiness will be knocking on the door.

Boredom causes a lot of hours spend in front of the TV 

watching meaningless programs. That kind of leisure time 

can easily lead to obesity and another cause for unhappiness.

9. Hanging out with the same people day after day

Don’t get this reason the wrong way. Friends are healthy, 

they are always great company and can help you in when you 

need them, but sometimes they can be a bit too boring for you.

Women should expand their circles of friends and 

acquaintances so they don’t end up talking to three or four 

people only. Not all weekends should be spent with the same

 people over and over again. Various people bring 

various experiences and events.

10. Break Ups

When relationships have unfortunate ending, the women are 

those that feel the greatest emotional impact. They are the 

ones that need more time heal the wounds from a break up.

 It is in men’s nature not to expose their emotions in public; 

it is their nature to be able to ignore those human emotions 

that cause tears in women’s eyes.

Unhappiness of a bad break up is regular in every woman’s 

life. Once you get emotionally attached to a person, it is hard 

to let those feelings go once a relationship has broken up. 

Women find it hard to change the life from being in a relationship to being single.

11. Single life

Even though there are ones of women nowadays that prefer the 

single life more than the married life, they do end up some 

nights going to sleep alone and wake up alone in bed 

wondering why that is.

The fear of being bounded by marriage keeps them 

away from matrimony and single life seems much more exciting 

than ever, but once every “single” friend they have starts getting 

married, starts a family, they start seeing the changes. Every friend’s 

family life presents her with the joys of having a family no matter

how tough it may seem. Single women are often unhappy because they haven’t found the love of

 their life … yet.

http://www.femalefatal.com/11-reasons-why-women-are-unhappy/

Stefan Sagmeister: 7 rules for making more happiness

Id like to give out my personal experience as a example of happiness situation. And I would like to hear the advice from different people.

A few years back I used to be more or less poor, and I used to think that having big things and expensive stuff is what would make me happy. Little did I know, I was experiencing an amazing amount of happiness of what I had at that time, great friends, great experiences, great adventures, etc. now, i am well off then how I ised to be. i live in the financial district, I have a driver, can get what I want, but truthfully, I don't have the same amount of happiness that I had back then.

I am not saying that I'm sad, but im saying that I just realized that what made me happy back then is a better happiness then the happy I have now. This is the tricky part though, what I have done lately is try to reproduce that same happiness by setting expectations and planning exactly what and how to do something. But at the end of the day, its not the same. So what I do is not have expectations, not plan anything extensivelly, and just let thigs happen, and to live for the present.

 What do you happy people think.. Advice?

http://www.ted.com/talks/stefan_sagmeister_7_rules_for_making_more_happiness.html